• Communication Ensures your Expectations are Met.

A popular scene in romantic movies is the girl who expects to get an engagement ring but gets a pair of earrings or a necklace instead. The crushing disappointment they feel is something we’ve all experienced when our expectations are not met. If left unchecked, that disappointment can turn to anger or resentment, which blows any romantic flames still flickering right out. On the other hand, communicating your expectations allows you to be on the same page with your partner. It lets your significant other know what you require to keep you happy and catered for (and how you can do the same for them). Such a positive relationship provides healthy soil for the romance to grow.

• Communication Helps You to Understand Your Partner Better

How many times have you felt like no one understands you in the world? And how many times has that ‘no one’ been your spouse or significant other? We all have quirks that could come off as weird and puzzling at first glance. However, when a couple is able to talk about these quirks openly, it helps clear out any misunderstandings or misconceptions. It allows both partners to enter a deeper level of understanding with each other that is not available with other people. The truth is, no one is going to love and accept all of you from day one. A relationship that allows for clear communication helps both partners know what truly makes up the other, and this is all intimate, valuable information they can use to create romantic experiences unique to that relationship.

• Communication Builds Trust

What do you get when you add consistency and understanding to a relationship? That is right, trust. When your partner consistently delivers on their word and meets your expectations, you naturally begin to trust them more with increasingly important aspects of your life. Add unreserved understanding, and your relationship transcends the surface level of intimacy that only relies on the physical connection. It is this trust that allows you and your partner to have a palpable chemistry that is deeper than the initial attraction you had when you first met. This is the trust that allows you to find small romantic moments to keep your relationship alive even in the most challenging of times. This is where telepathy begins.

• Say Your Expectations Out Loud

Before you get mad at your partner for not knowing what you expect, ask yourself if you have ever said your expectations out loud. Not as an implication or a hint, but clearly with no room for misunderstanding. If so, you are all set. If not, find a way to communicate how you feel with clarity and kindness. This does not mean be blunt and crude; rather say it in a way that allows your partner to be receptive to what you’re saying.

• Listen, Listen, Listen

I cannot emphasize this enough. Sometimes what you think is clear communication is not so clear to the other person. Attentively listening to your significant other helps you to learn how they communicate, and if there is a disagreement, you can both work it out much quicker when you understand where the other person is coming from. And the quicker you get through the disagreements, the quicker you get to the good times 🙂

• Find Out Your Lover’s Love Language

Gary Chapman’s bestselling book on the love languages is an amazing blueprint on how you can learn your lover’s love language. People receive love differently; one person may value receiving and giving gifts while the other does not need all that but cherishes quality time with their loved one. In such a relationship, you can already see how things could go sideways if either partner does not know what the other’s love language is. Make life easier for both of you by communicating your love language.